The Milk Meg, aka Meg Nagle, is an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant and breastfeeding advocate.
Her approaches are aimed at breastfeeding mothers, but many of her ideas can be applied however your child is being fed. She says we may be asking the wrong questions about baby sleep.
Rather than obsessing on the baby sleeping, which can be quite stressful (and disappointing!), she says we should focus on getting more sleep ourselves, getting help, and not taking on too much:
“Try asking yourself these questions instead:
What can I do to get more sleep?
Who is available to come over for a couple of hours to help me today?
What can I leave until tomorrow?
What can I reschedule today so I don’t have to leave the house?”
She offers ideas on getting more sleep, by answering the questions above. Please have a look at her website to read the full set of questions and answers. She finishes by saying:
“GET SUPPORT, WAIT AS LONG AS POSSIBLE BEFORE RETURNING TO WORK AND FIND THE SLEEPING ARRANGEMENT THAT WORKS FOR YOU TO GET MORE SLEEP – WHETHER IT’S CO-SLEEPING, BED-SHARING, OR YOUR BABY SLEEPING IN THEIR OWN ROOM. We are all in this together. Let’s support each other! It’s all about building community support.”
Meg has also just finished writing a sleep book for breastfeeding mothers, full of information which will really help you to understand your breastfed baby. It is available to pre-order on her website, and will soon be available through international sellers.
About the book, she says on her webpage: “Most babies just want a cuddle and a boob. This book is for those looking for gentle suggestions, an understanding of what is normal in breastfed babies and toddlers, and what to do when everyone says your way of mothering through breastfeeding (especially at night) is not best…when you know in your heart that it is.”
Parent Reviews: One mother told us “This is the kind of advice which you only get it when you actually get it. It was difficult to take it seriously with a young baby as a new first time mom – I wanted my sleep, and I wanted it now! But in hindsight it it spot on and it’s what I do now she’s gotten a bit older. I hope some mommas with young babies (or even those with older babies and toddlers) will read it and see the wisdom in it.”
Acknowledgement: We thank Meg Nagle IBCLC for her generous time in helping us make sure this page is an accurate representation of her work. We hope you will find it helpful, and hope it will help to introduce more readers to her.